I have been complaining to Hubby that we haven't been to a movie for years... yes.. believe it! It's been years since we last set our feet inside a cinema. I can't even remember what the last movie that both of us watched was. It could be The Lord of the Rings. How many years has it been then...?
So, tomorrow both of us are taking a day off!! The main purpose is... (take a wild guess...) to spend more time (the whole day in fact) together... but I would rather fondly recognise it as reliving our courting days... We have planned out the day carefully. It'll start with meeting with my gynae for my fortnightly check up. Then, we're going for a movie (most probably Batman), then shopping, then movie again (we haven't decided yet what movie it's going to be), then may be we'll end our day with a fancy dinner. But whatever it is... it's going to be just the two of us...
In all excitement, I still can't shake away one question that's been mingling in my mind. Why oh why do we have to take a day off to do all of those things...? Why can't we go on dates on a regular basis? It struck me then... ever since we have Iqie, we have sort of stopped being a "couple" and without realising it, we have assumed the role of "parents". We have never thought that we could still be a "couple" when we became "parents". I am confusing myself here hehehe...
What I want to say is that having a child shouldn't stop us going out on dates, just the two of us. We need that dating sessions to spend time together... to catch up on that "love feelings" that once were burning like the summer sun... well... they're still burning like mad of course, but in a different way. When I look back, most of our "dates" nowadays are threesome... I'm not saying they'rs bad... they are good family outings and all... but at the same time I really feel that Hubby and I need to have our "dates" back... just like the old times.
When I say that I need to have "dates" with Hubby, it doesn't mean that Iqie is left behind. Of course we have to balance between dating and family outing. We can't be concentrating on family outings only when as a couple we used to date. Such a dramatic change took place there... I strongly believe that "parents" should relive their "couple's" days... at least for them to stay sane... hehhehee... I need some space for myself and step away for a while from being a mother all the time and Hubby has his space almost every Saturday with his car enthusiast friends. I need to go out and meet other people too to reconnect with the world outside the vicinity of my condo.
Of course I have to emphasise that this is not a cry for more freedom... I love spending time with Iqie and Hubby... only that sometimes... there is a piece of me that just want to do some crazy things like what I used to do yesteryears...
ieja
So, tomorrow both of us are taking a day off!! The main purpose is... (take a wild guess...) to spend more time (the whole day in fact) together... but I would rather fondly recognise it as reliving our courting days... We have planned out the day carefully. It'll start with meeting with my gynae for my fortnightly check up. Then, we're going for a movie (most probably Batman), then shopping, then movie again (we haven't decided yet what movie it's going to be), then may be we'll end our day with a fancy dinner. But whatever it is... it's going to be just the two of us...
In all excitement, I still can't shake away one question that's been mingling in my mind. Why oh why do we have to take a day off to do all of those things...? Why can't we go on dates on a regular basis? It struck me then... ever since we have Iqie, we have sort of stopped being a "couple" and without realising it, we have assumed the role of "parents". We have never thought that we could still be a "couple" when we became "parents". I am confusing myself here hehehe...
What I want to say is that having a child shouldn't stop us going out on dates, just the two of us. We need that dating sessions to spend time together... to catch up on that "love feelings" that once were burning like the summer sun... well... they're still burning like mad of course, but in a different way. When I look back, most of our "dates" nowadays are threesome... I'm not saying they'rs bad... they are good family outings and all... but at the same time I really feel that Hubby and I need to have our "dates" back... just like the old times.
When I say that I need to have "dates" with Hubby, it doesn't mean that Iqie is left behind. Of course we have to balance between dating and family outing. We can't be concentrating on family outings only when as a couple we used to date. Such a dramatic change took place there... I strongly believe that "parents" should relive their "couple's" days... at least for them to stay sane... hehhehee... I need some space for myself and step away for a while from being a mother all the time and Hubby has his space almost every Saturday with his car enthusiast friends. I need to go out and meet other people too to reconnect with the world outside the vicinity of my condo.
Of course I have to emphasise that this is not a cry for more freedom... I love spending time with Iqie and Hubby... only that sometimes... there is a piece of me that just want to do some crazy things like what I used to do yesteryears...
ieja
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